FEELING WORDS TO AVOID WHEN COMMUNICATING
(BECAUSE THEY DESCRIBE WHAT
| abandoned | bullied | diminished | manipulated |
| abused | cheated | distrusted | misunderstood |
| attacked | coerced | interrupted | neglected |
| betrayed | co-opted | intimidated | overworked |
| boxed-in | cornered | let down | patronized |
| threatened | unwanted | provoked | unappreciated |
| used | put-down | unheard | rejected |
| unseen |
FEELINGS WORDS TO USE
Feelings when our needs are being met:
| affectionate | blissful | confident | excited |
| alert | breathless | contented | free |
| alive | calm | delighted | friendly |
| amazed | carefree | eager | fulfilled |
| appreciative | cheerful | elated | glad |
| aroused | comfortable | encouraged | grateful |
| happy | joyous | perky | tender |
| helpful | loving | proud | thankful |
| hopeful | mellow | refreshed | touched |
| inspired | moved | relieved | upbeat |
| interested | optimistic | secure | warm |
| intrigued | peaceful | splendid | wonderful |
Feelings when our needs are not being met:
| afraid | beat | cold | disenchanted |
| agitated | bewildered | concerned | disgusted |
| alarmed | bitter | confused | dismayed |
| angry | blah | cross | displeased |
| anxious | bored | depressed | disturbed |
| ashamed | brokenhearted | despondent | edgy |
| embarrassed | furious | hostile | lazy |
| exasperated | guilty | hot | lonely |
| exhausted | heavy | impatient | mad |
| fearful | helpless | irate | mean |
| frightened | hesitant | jealous | miserable |
| frustrated | horrible | jittery | nervous |
| numb | repelled | shaky | suspicious |
| overwhelmed | resentful | shocked | terrified |
| panicky | restless | skeptical | uncomfortable |
| passive | sad | sleepy | weary |
| pessimistic | scared | sorry | withdrawn |
| reluctant | sensitive | startled | worried |
Expressing actual feelings is different than statements which describe thoughts, assessments and interpretation.
From Sacred Quest, Nancy Pfaff, MA, Spiritual Director, (775) 560-3030